How Does One Know If a Relationship Is Worth Developing?

Holding Hands_lrBy Harold Klemp

Q: How does one know if a relationship is based on love and is worth developing?

A: No one has the final word on love, but consider the following points in deciding if you really love someone:

  1. Does he bring joy to your heart when you think of him?
  2. Do you want to make him happy?
  3. Will you love him for what he is and not try to change him?  Will you let him be as he is and not what you want him to be?
  4. Young people tend to fall in love with their ideal of love.  This means that one has the ideal of a Prince Charming who is really a toad.  Not all Prince Charmings are toads, and not all toads are Prince Charmings.
  5. Don’t forget your self-worth.  How does he treat you—like a treasure or someone to be used?

Love is the expression of the ECK, Divine Spirit, on earth, and these points should give you a fairly good opportunity to see what kind of relationship you are in.

Excerpted from Youth Ask a Modern Prophet about Life, Love, and God

14 Responses to How Does One Know If a Relationship Is Worth Developing?

  1. GODWIN says:


  2. Clement says:

    The words of Sri Harold Klemp is changing the world for the better. Love is the way to a better life. Thank you Harji.

  3. anil patel says:

    some great pointers indeed. all worth taking into contemplation. i might add the following:

    [a] is your friendship based on trust, honesty, and loyalty?
    [b] are you able to speak to each other, with comfort and without fear of any kind?
    [c] do you feel that your relationship will endure? how do you see it evolving in the next three years?
    [d] is the love you have for each other totally without condition?
    [e] are you comfortable with allowing the other person space to be themselves?
    [f] ask the Mahanta in contemplation or write to the Master on whether this person is the one for you at this time.

  4. Fabia says:

    Thank you Mahanta you gave me the name of my future Partner in life .. We met and after nearly two years together this man and I are fulfilling ALL of these important criteria FINALLY at age 52 and 66

  5. Paula Flint says:

    I think understanding when to speak and when to keep silent. Stranger by the River is an excellent book to learn about love too.

  6. Russ Button says:

    I found out for myself that item #5 may well come before everything else. Unless you truly accept that you are worth being loved, you can't really accept being loved by someone else. That will always sabotage a relationship. Realize yourself as Soul, that you exist because you are loved by God. Know that in the very heart of your being and you will be ready to be loved and to truly love another yourself.

  7. Dappa Comfort A. says:

    Thank you Harji, for your words of WISDOM.

  8. Tracey says:

    While this advice is for lovers, it can also be used in terms of basic relationship building. I so enjoy the graciousness, that comes through your words, Sri Harold Klemp~ <3

  9. lyn brenner says:

    Thankyou!i appreciate your advice it is a difficult one for me at the moment and so appropriate.

  10. Deinma Chinakwe says:

    Wonderful piece. Very practical answer.

  11. Okoroafor Israel Chidiebube says:

    is all about self-Commitment, trust and love

  12. Geraldine says:

    This is very good. I have read it in the masters book but this blog make it easy to remember. Thanks. Good job

  13. Anna says:

    Thank you, wise words indeed! 🙂

  14. shakuntala says:

    A very sound advice specially to youngsters. Thank you Mahanta.

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