Harold Klemp Shares Wisdom on Relationships: How to Become a Magnet for Love

This clip—and the transcript below—is from Harold Klemp’s 2010 talk “Teacher and Student.”


Someone wrote to me about having a very hard time finding love. The secret of love is: To get love, you must give love. You’ve really got to open yourself and give freely of yourself. You can’t fake it. It’s got to be so. And when you do this, you become a magnet for love. Then the right person will come along because you’re no longer repelling. You’re attracting, because of your open heart.

Even when you’re in a relationship, it takes a long time to get engaged in it, if you will. It takes time because there are past hurts—all kinds of things that are in the past that need to be overcome.

A relationship needs to build too. It needs to grow more deeply than the first physical attraction, which is strong. But then it will grow into something that is very deep, if you let it.

Probably the hardest thing for people to remember during an argument is: Only one of us should be talking at a time, and one of us should be right at a time. Let the other be right. And this is hard. It’s wisdom—a lot of wisdom. Because when you’re in the heat of battle, you’re not thinking wise thoughts. The emotions have taken the field.

You’ve got to get apart from that. You’ve got to stand above it like an astronaut in space. Look down, and catch yourself. Look down as you would upon a Shakespearean stage: just players in the physical body, having a bad day.

There are such things in many relationships—many things. But if you can get through them, the love will grow deeper over time. And the time will come when you simply cannot think of yourself as apart from your mate. You’re one. Your mate’s pain is your pain. Your mate’s joy is your joy. Those of you who have stayed the course, you know what I mean.

If I can leave you with one thing this evening, it’s this: to get love, you’ve got to give it. You’ve got to open your heart. Open it completely.

The longer we spend getting experience in this life, the more we learn about love.

May the blessings be.

10 Responses to Harold Klemp Shares Wisdom on Relationships: How to Become a Magnet for Love

  1. Kathleen says:

    How difficult it is to let go when your love wants someone else?

  2. Ameerat says:

    Do everything in the name of the Mahanta and listen to the inner master, no act of kindness will ever backfire.
    May the blessings be

  3. Deanna Strahl says:

    I have been with my husband for 30 years now and still love him more than anything. Although he is not an Eckist like myself he has great respect for the things I do in Eck. Meaning the contemplations, reading the Eck books, blogging etc. I could not be happy without him nor Eckankar. Having 1 or 2 good relationships is very important. Thank you Mahanta for helping me with this.

  4. Joy Mark says:

    This just made my day, thanks for sharing

  5. Roland Logo says:

    To give love to another, the spouse or to the children is an art. Understanding love in action needs a lot of exercise. Sometimes it is beneficial we can remember standing in same position or argument with our partner but could handle the situation with giving of love and standing back. Small things and reactions seem to be very powerful. With the presence of the Inner Master we are never alone to make the right decision. The Light of the Master can shine in resonance with our partner. The beauty of flowing divine Love is such a blessing.

  6. sima says:

    Dear Mahanta,

    Many thanks for giving me the answer for my question.

  7. David Coldwell says:

    Why do people find love always fleeing before them?
    So many give up loving their spouse for another before the cycle of giving and receiving is completed.

  8. Martin says:

    Thanks.. What if your partner want to be with someone else and yet you still give her more love?

  9. Arash says:

    Thanks for sharing this great article, it’s exactly what I need. ❤

  10. Pamela B Igweze says:

    Thank you for these beautiful insights.

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