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Spiritual Love

ECKANKAR, Relationships, Youth, Spiritual LoveBy Harold Klemp

Q: How can one have a healthy, loving relationship without getting too attached?

A: Not to get attached is often taken to mean “not to get involved.”  It actually means not to let your idea of how things should be dictate the relationship.  That kind of love has strings attached.  It means always trying to have your partner do what you think is right.

Those with pure love do all they can to let their mates grow in every way.

So we come to the real meaning of detached love.  It means to let others exist without forcing our will upon them.  That is spiritual love.

Excerpted from Youth Ask a Modern Prophet about Life, Love, and God.

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The Secret of All Relationships

ECKANKAR, Soul, Love,By Harold Klemp

Everyone has some experience with love—even a child who has a pet kitten or a dog.  Soul is trying to give back or respond to God’s love that’s coming through. In some way the child learns lessons about caring for the pet.  If he neglects the pet and it runs away, the child learns one of the first hard lessons about love: If you love something, you have to nurture it.

Like anything else, you have to put your full attention on it.  Sometimes in the courting stage, a couple focuses all their attention on each other, but after they are married they begin to take each other for granted.  Instead of looking at each other when they talk, their eyes drift.  Maybe the man is thinking about work, and she is thinking about things happening in her life.  They talk past each other. Read More

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How Does One Know If a Relationship Is Worth Developing?

Holding Hands_lrBy Harold Klemp

Q: How does one know if a relationship is based on love and is worth developing?

A: No one has the final word on love, but consider the following points in deciding if you really love someone:

  1. Does he bring joy to your heart when you think of him?
  2. Do you want to make him happy?
  3. Will you love him for what he is and not try to change him?  Will you let him be as he is and not what you want him to be?
  4. Young people tend to fall in love with their ideal of love.  This means that one has the ideal of a Prince Charming who is really a toad.  Not all Prince Charmings are toads, and not all toads are Prince Charmings.
  5. Don’t forget your self-worth.  How does he treat you—like a treasure or someone to be used?

Love is the expression of the ECK, Divine Spirit, on earth, and these points should give you a fairly good opportunity to see what kind of relationship you are in.

Excerpted from Youth Ask a Modern Prophet about Life, Love, and God

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